Then why do we try to take a break from Real Life and even in Second Life....we second guess ourselves? Why do we tend to feel pressure? There is only one word for that: EXPECTATIONS.
We do have high expectations our whole lives, and the first thing that all these expectations cause to us is pressure. Pressure to fail or to just not fit in what people expect from us.
In Second Life it could be fitting in certain group of people (surfers community, bloggers, fashionists, people that make themselves look super cool...) or maybe landing in a place where we would like to have people attention, to have someone making us feel pretty, or wanted, or desired, or just worthy.
One day I felt ready to be myself. To go around in Second Life without the constant expectation of others approval... dressed as I wanted, not trying to fit, not trying to pretend, nor to like anyone other than myself. I gained confidence...and it helped me to step to Real Life...now I've been away from SL for a while and I took everything I learned there to get the same confidence into the Real World.
Without expectations people is nicer. Is real. Is beautiful. Even if my situation is still the same, I now feel stronger and ready to take a step further.
So thanks to all those who been by my side all this time. The real ones, the fearless ones, the honest ones. Those that didnt expect anything in return for their kindess. Those that changed my world.
We arent our avatars. Thank god we arent....we are something much more amazing than that. So dont let that pressure hunt you.
If you can make it without all that fake glam in SL and you actually dare to find real friends that doesnt even look at your outfits and unfitted hairs.....you can make it in life being yourself. Ready for the challenge? I totally dare y'all.
