Instinct

It is said that we should always allow our instinct guide us. But somehow humans, unlike animals, are always ashamed of our own most natural instincts. 

The most basic one is sex. Animals so it for reproduction. Humans.....for fun. And we try so hard to even make it about love, but lets be honest: nature didnt make it about feelings at all. 

In Second Life these two concepts are are much more clear than in Real Life, maybe because it is easier to talk to someone without seeing an actual face. 

Kim was clear from the beggining about her limits: she didnt want love, she wanted money and presents. And Ian was up to give her that, but he wanted her to make him feel loved in exchange of that money. This Sugarbaby relationship went on for a few months, and they were really enjoying it. Infact, Kim was enjoying it more than she thought she ever would. 

One night she logged in crying, her rl was complicated at the time and she felt the only person she could talk with was Ian, so she IMmed him. He didnt answer. She had the landmark of his house so she thought maybe she could tp, they were so confident by then. But the surprise was that when she arrived he was with his friends...and he got so upset because to him she was just a Sugarbaby that he would never introduce to his friends. 

The whole relationship was a lie, thats what they both signed for. Everytime he had been sad she was there for him. But when it came to her..."When I see you I always give you what you want. But if we dont plan to see eachother, you have absolutely nothing to give me. That was our deal" he said. 

He did it for survival, he didnt have to sign up for a relationship with a real girlfriend and all that it takes. She did it for the same reasons, but when she confused it with love...she hit her head against a huge wall called REALITY. 

Are we wrong when we make intimacy be about love? 

Is a relationship really about love....or is it actually about survival?